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Category: Other Sexual Issues

The Sex Addict

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While no single behavioral pattern constitutes a sexual addiction, a prevailing characteristic of sexual dependency is its ability to dominate one’s life. The sex addict places sex above all, including family, friends and career. In an effort to preserve and continue their compulsive behavior, an addict will sacrifice meaningful relationships and opportunities, giving more and more power to their obsession. Caught up in the whirlwind of ‘acting out’ behaviors such as compulsive masturbation, anonymous sex, pornography, prostitution, exhibitionism, voyeurism, indecent phone calls, massage parlors and strip clubs, the lives of sexual addicts become consumed and unmanageable. While less common, some acting out behaviors can evolve into offending behavior, such as child molestation, incest, rape or other forms of sexual violence.…

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Sexual Health Tips for Autumn

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While fall is known as the season for football and colorful leaves, it can also be an ideal season to boost your sexual health. The chilly, dark weather invites the perfect time to cocoon inside (or in bed) with your partner. In fact, there are several aspects of autumn that can foster better sexual wellness. Here are some ways to make the most of the season this year: Heat it Up As the hot summer nights are replaced with a noticeable chill in the air, use this as an opportunity to not only snuggle up with your partner during cool fall mornings but also generate extra heat during sex. Consider sexual positions such as missionary with a pelvic tilt or…

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The Tinder Game

By Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CSAT-S
Executive Director & Co-Founder
Triune Therapy Group

The Tinder game.

He was handsome and he knew it. “I landed my first modeling gig,” he exclaimed via text message, with a smug giddiness. Then he sent a shirtless picture. Having just relocated to Los Angeles, Marc was the kind of good looking that commanded a room when he walked in. Kara was no stranger to such attention, as she too was very attractive, but Marc had the kind of enthusiasm for his own appearance paralleled only by Narcissus himself. This would be their second date and his modeling gig interrupted their plans for dinner. He begged her to meet him at a historic hotel in Hollywood, known for hot parties and daily celebrity sightings. This was where his photo shoot would…

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What is a healthy relationship, anyway?

Triune Therapy Group

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“What is a healthy relationship, anyway?” Karen asked the question in earnest as she plopped down onto the couch in my office. Having sought treatment due to her inability to achieve an orgasm with a partner, many of our sessions focused on unraveling the intricacies of her relationships with men. One relationship in particular dominated the forefront of discourse as it was in a never-ending start and stop cycle, and its intensity upended Karen’s world. She didn’t know why she kept in contact with Dan. He wasn’t her “forever person,” but some invisible force was binding her to him and she could not walk away. Their connection was “stale,” and their only shared interest was “making a ton of money.”…

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Real Life Revenge Porn

By Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CSAT-S
Executive Director & Co-Founder
Triune Therapy Group

Real life revenge porn.

*Trigger Warning: Explicit Language & Sexual Content. This is a true survivor account, though it has been edited for clarity and all names and identifying information have been disguised. “Are you sitting down?” he asked. I was, and felt my heart leap into my throat. What is this about? Nothing good ever follows that question. I’ve never seen him so stern. “I’ve been having an affair. Her name is Molly.” Liar. Fucking Liar. It can’t be true. We have two kids! A dog! A good sex life! We met in Spain in our 20s, where I am from and where he was vacationing. Following his proposal, I moved to the U.S. to start a family. His face was cold, unwavering.…

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