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Category: Relationships

10 Unexpected Ways Your Anger is Leaking Everywhere

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Anger is often a misunderstood emotion. Is it healthy? Unhealthy? Are there signs and red flags before anger turns into rage? The truth is, anger is a completely normal and even a healthy human emotion – when it’s able to be expressed constructively. When a person feels anger, their body releases adrenaline, cortisol, and noradrenaline. Anger also affects a person’s heart rate, breathing rate, and body temperature, which explains why those who find it more difficult to healthily manage their anger struggle with high blood pressure, heart problems, and other health risks. Anger can affect people emotionally and mentally as well. The consequences to bouts of frequent and uncontrollable anger can cause depression, shame, low self-esteem, self-injury, the abuse of…

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Gaslighting: Is It Happening To You?

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With unique perceptions about life and experiences, each of us develops sensory capacities that are different than the next, with distinct responses, beliefs and convictions. These ideas define who we are as individuals, and while we are continuously exposed to views that are different than our own, many of us remain true to core values and insights. Even so, psychologists point out an unfortunate reality that is lurking among personal and professional relationships—gaslighting. Though not always malicious or intentional, gaslighting is a form of sly manipulation and a way of exuding power over another. Victims might begin to question the ideas that they once felt sure about, including their judgment, reasoning and decision-making. Over time, individuals can lose touch with…

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Gas Lighting & Other Love Bombs

By: Kayla Tricaso,
Office Manager

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Anyone who has been in a relationship with someone who falls on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) spectrum knows how painful, stressful, and confusing the relationship can be. Dating someone with NPD can feel like a rollercoaster; one second you’re on cloud nine and the next it can feel like you’re plummeting from a thousand feet. A person with NPD traits will be on their best behavior in the beginning and their partners often feel as if it’s the most passionate and intense love they’ve ever experienced. Unfortunately, when the mask comes off, a different side of the NPD partner comes out. The tactics that people with NPD employ are often so covert that they can be difficult to recognize,…

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Safe Dating in a Complex Culture

By Lauren Dummit, LMFT, CSAT,
Co-Founder & Clinical Director,
Triune Therapy Group

Your are worthy of love.

We live in a culture which seems to scorn basic needs for intimacy, closeness, and dependency while exalting independence, yet at the same, many people feel pressured to find a partner. People spend months, if not years obsessing over finding “the one.” There are countless dating sites, dating apps, meet ups, and speed dating events that people participate in in order to find a companion. According to John Bowlby, the psychologist who pioneered attachment theory in the 1950’s, “our need for someone to share our lives with is part of our genetic makeup and has nothing to do with how much we love ourselves or how fulfilled we feel on our own…attachment is an integral part of human behavior throughout…

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The Gift of Sanity – 5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself During the Holidays

By Kayla Tricaso
Administrative & Intake Coordinator
Triune Therapy Group

The gift of sanity.

“You chose your family over me. Don’t be surprised if you come back to LA and I’ve killed myself.”The text from my boyfriend was the first notification I received when I turned my phone off airplane mode upon landing in my hometown of Ann Arbor, Michigan. Coming home for Christmas never felt as joyous as it should have been. Everything around me-people clad in red and green Christmas gear, decorated Christmas trees in every visible direction, and the nonstop loop of classic cheery Christmas songs-indicated that this time of year is a celebration. I want to feel that innate happiness, but in my reality, Christmas feels like a party I wasn’t invited to but somehow ended up at anyway. As…

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The Tinder Game

By Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CSAT-S
Executive Director & Co-Founder
Triune Therapy Group

The Tinder game.

He was handsome and he knew it. “I landed my first modeling gig,” he exclaimed via text message, with a smug giddiness. Then he sent a shirtless picture. Having just relocated to Los Angeles, Marc was the kind of good looking that commanded a room when he walked in. Kara was no stranger to such attention, as she too was very attractive, but Marc had the kind of enthusiasm for his own appearance paralleled only by Narcissus himself. This would be their second date and his modeling gig interrupted their plans for dinner. He begged her to meet him at a historic hotel in Hollywood, known for hot parties and daily celebrity sightings. This was where his photo shoot would…

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What is a healthy relationship, anyway?

Triune Therapy Group

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“What is a healthy relationship, anyway?” Karen asked the question in earnest as she plopped down onto the couch in my office. Having sought treatment due to her inability to achieve an orgasm with a partner, many of our sessions focused on unraveling the intricacies of her relationships with men. One relationship in particular dominated the forefront of discourse as it was in a never-ending start and stop cycle, and its intensity upended Karen’s world. She didn’t know why she kept in contact with Dan. He wasn’t her “forever person,” but some invisible force was binding her to him and she could not walk away. Their connection was “stale,” and their only shared interest was “making a ton of money.”…

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Real Life Revenge Porn

By Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CSAT-S
Executive Director & Co-Founder
Triune Therapy Group

Real life revenge porn.

*Trigger Warning: Explicit Language & Sexual Content. This is a true survivor account, though it has been edited for clarity and all names and identifying information have been disguised. “Are you sitting down?” he asked. I was, and felt my heart leap into my throat. What is this about? Nothing good ever follows that question. I’ve never seen him so stern. “I’ve been having an affair. Her name is Molly.” Liar. Fucking Liar. It can’t be true. We have two kids! A dog! A good sex life! We met in Spain in our 20s, where I am from and where he was vacationing. Following his proposal, I moved to the U.S. to start a family. His face was cold, unwavering.…

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